As with most couples, my husband and I are opposites in just about every aspect of our personalities. In a lot of ways this makes us stronger as a couple. The one area where we are similar though, is also our biggest weakness. We are both incredibly stubborn.
Our first run in with the downside of this trait occurred before our wedding. We were in the mall shopping for bedding for our first bed and it was a disaster. I wanted something pretty and he wanted something without any flowers or lace. After hours of going through the bedding section of every department store there, I was in tears. In one month, we were going to commit to spend the rest of our lives together and we couldn't even agree on a bedspread.
We have been married 16 years and have lived in 3 different houses. But by the grace of God, we have never been house shopping together, until now. In the past one of us would travel to the city we were moving to and choose a house. The other never even saw it until we moved in. We would discuss the features that were important and trust the judgment of the one picking the house out. (Lubbock, Texas: he picked, The Colony, Texas: I picked, Beaverton, Oregon: he picked)
When we moved to Oregon, 2 1/2 years ago, we decided to rent a house. Mainly because we knew nothing about the area but also because we had no idea how long we would be here. At this point it looks like we will be here for a long time and so it makes sense to buy a house. As we have been looking into living more sustainably, what we would like in a house has changed drastically. However, what hasn't changed is the completely different ways that Paul and I approach the process and how stubborn we both are. As our real-estate agent told me this week, "Watching the two of you go through this process is going to be very interesting."